The narcissists in my life – family members and people I wish I was not related to – have gone silent. This is their tactic. The silence came from my suggestion via email that something in the family was approached in a different way and how I wanted to help resolve an issue. The email had a professional, non-aggressive tone.
The email suggestion sent over a month ago was met with blistering, icy silence, and this is what I want to talk about in this post.
Silence is one of the Narcissist’s most powerful tools. Silence negates a person’s presence. It renders them (me) voiceless.
Silence from a Narcissist says the following: it says YOU ARE NOT IMPORTANT. YOU ARE NOT WORTHY OF MY TIME AND ENERGY. YOUR THOUGHTS AND IDEAS ARE WORTHLESS. I HAVE NO INTEREST IN YOUR IDEAS.
Silence – in the sphere of human communication – is evil.
It makes us (me) fee Tippexed out. I makes us (me) feel as though I don’t exist. It is GASLIGHTING in the most violent form (see my previous post on gaslighting).
It causes depression, feelings of worthlessness and so much more.
By not acknowledging my kind and nice email which wanted to help solve an issue, the Narcissists in my family (and there are three) have caused the following physical reactions in me.
- I feel deeply depressed and worthless
- I feel sick (like vomiting) a lot of the time
- I feel like I am going mad
- I feel angry
- I feel alone
- I feel totally negated – as though I don’t exist
I wish I could offer advice on how to deal with this type of emotional ‘rape’, but I can’t.
Their silence makes me want to match their silence with my own silence. It’s such a waste of a life all this Narcissistic bullshit.
I know that the next time I am contacted by one of the Narcissists in my family it will be when they want me to do something for them. FUCK THEM ALL.
What advice does anyone have here? When it comes to this type of psychological warfare, the only way to fight is to go no-contact.
Stay loved and please offer advice if you can.